Ok, I have friends that are in HNM shells. I want to get Eurytos' Bow, which is obviously something that's hard to save up for, as I'm not putting RNG or NIN or my craft leveling on hold for it. I'm trying to get it by camping, much like your Joyeuse.
Or perhaps for a better example, Othinus' Bow. Those two bows are, much like (maybe even more so, seeing as RDM don't always melee) your sword, and important piece of equip.
My brother is indeed a level 73 NIN. Do I expect him and any of my friends to drop anything if I see either of those two NMs up?
**** no.
In fact, I've sat there and watched two people I considered friends claim and kill Wyvernpoacher Drachlox in front of me, knowing full well that I needed that crossbow more than the level 75 whatever person that was getting it for his level 50 RNG.
But I never ***** about it unless it's to say, "ah ****, xxx is here again to kill this damn NM. There go my shots at getting obow tonight." And I leave it at that. No ******** about friends not showing up to camp with me.
I know they have lives and they have better things to do than sit in Fei'Yin or Gustav tunnel staring at mobs for hours on end just to get me a bow that I don't exactly need to keep leveling. In fact, if people wanted to do that I'd probably ask them if they were feeling well.
Same with Rank 7 and ZM8. I know that if I really wanted to that I could rally the troops for some day in the future to get those done and get sky and my PPA, but I don't want to be a ***** about it like you are.
Fact is, you can either go with the flow and get stuff done for yourself eventually, or you can be a ***** about it and whine like you do. Guess we now know why someone isn't in an HNM shell.