My guild died too. 1 year and a few months of doing cooking writs everyday or so for absolutely nothing. Mine died because of SOE's lack of conviction towards what they believed had to be done to have a great game : they went way around on the PvP question, copied their huge competitor and took away 3/4 of my guild to their new formed kiddo vs kiddo servers.
So after 2 weeks with my wife of debating if we were going to leave or not, seeing as how we were practically the only 2 left logging in (and believe it or not we were enough ppl to actually have casual raiding !), we decided that, hell EQ2 was not for us anymore. We tried DDO. We cancelled our subscription before the 30 days trial was done. (Like a whole lot of ppl LOL). I just bought oblivion, great game. EQ2 has nothing for me anymore. We tried to start over with some alts. The game is too quick now. What I took weeks to accomplish back then took me a few hours. So my wife and I are stuck, as the only game that really catches our attention atm is Vanguard, and it is still in Beta. We will have to wait, I guess.
It's not only your guild Lydiaele that is dying, or mine's...I really think that EQ2 is not as good in a shape SOE wants to make their customers believe. All that smooth talk about merging because we were such a growing community...im really sorry, its BS. I've been there and it was obvious. The merge ? on my server after the merge (Butcherblock), there were about 3-4 more ppl LFG than usual. That's not much. All the merge brought to me is more plat farmers that train you because you are in their hunting area. There is no such thing as a constant growing community as they want to make all of us believe. The sad truth is, a lot of ppl are quitting, I am just an example of it, and that is why, little by little, more and more posts like yours end up on forums about their guild dying. Sad but true.
I'm not trying to get ppl to hate EQ2. I'm just giving my opinion on some things I observed during my 63 templar levels - 63 provisioner levels. I'm not saying it will necessarily be better somewhere else, but im done here. I now need to see something else.
Peace and have fun, whatever you all decide to do. Just remember the very basic about a game : its meant to be fun.