You should change your login name. It's in very poor taste.
You might have a better time in the more populated servers. When you create your character and select your server, it will show the "load" at that time. Keep in mind that load indicates the load now, not all the time. So look for a server during your normal play times to find one that is well populated.
Najena is a good server, as are AB (Role Playing), Mistmoore, and Guk.