My fury was in an SH group and a rogue adept dropped. No rogues in party. Warrior won it. I have a rogue alt - I asked him "could i pls trade u for that?" He said whatcha got? I showed him a zerker adept, same basic lvl. He said, cool. We swapped.
If an adept for a class appears in Lotto window and someone in group is that class, before declining i do asap something like "/g ThatPlayer probably needs that - ThatPlayer, you already got that one as adept?" He either says yes or no. If no, I gsay "I'm declining - ThatPlayer needs it". I'm not telling anyone else what to do. But I'm trying to be noble and lead by example. So far people tend to go w/ the spirit of that - you feel like such a heel if you don't.
This bypasses the whole NBG arguement - which I think is silly - a guy in a group finally sees that rare adept- and he's not going to be allowed to have it?? That's UTTERLY HEARTLESS.
I don't mean to be going head to head w/ you here Toxic and Tarv - your points are well made. I just can't get over the fact that in my own head "it is utterly heartless" to deny some other player a rare thing he really needs.
And again, try being generous - it pays off in the long run. Don't believe me? In old EQ about the time of Velious I'd sort of fallen into an antisocial mode w/ my old druid - soloing way too much, etc. But there was this guy who boxed a gnome cleric and a dwarf warrior - really friendly - talked me into grouping w/ him some. I got way less exp than soloing, but we could take out badasp named mobs and get items. Well one day it turned out I had already soloed a named mob - and I just gave him the uber pair of gloves it dropped when I saw him later on (they were rare at the time , gave big wis plus for gloves , and his cleric really needed wis). He was completely blown away by that.
Well, it turned out his RL older brother was in a big up and coming guild. When my pal got invited into the guild, he made a point of telling them they should invite me, too. In part we were friends but also - he wanted to pay me back for just giving him an uber item. Well, I got in, and that guild grew to become the *top* raiding guild on the server. I got all my planar items - got so much uber dragon loot it was silly. Got my epic. That one act of generosity paid me back 100 fold or more.
Toxic - the other was funny - but it's good to see you back to normal. GL all!